Which way are you going?

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It’s time to choose. 

Your choices will determine your path in life; where you will go and how long it takes. You can stay right where you are; the comfortable place that is familiar and safe. Or you can dare to exceed your own expectations. Put aside the excuses, ignore the naysayers, and fully commit to excellence in all you do. Embrace the gifts God has blessed you with.

    
 

A God Ordained Relationship?

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(Original article: http://theprayingwoman.com/2015/05/21/7-ways-to-determine-if-your-relationship-is-god-ordained/)

7 Ways to Determine if Your Relationship is God Ordained

The root of any relationship should begin with your relationship with God. It sets the tone for how you interact in other relationships (of all sorts). Ultimately, the more intimate you become with God, his peace will surpass your understanding. Meaning, you will be content with your portion of life, which ultimately makes you a better partner.

Here are 7 Ways to Determine if Your Relationship is God Ordained:

1) You will have peace. Through every situation that you endure together, you will have peace at the end of the day.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:7

2) Your desire to fulfill God’s will- will surpass your own desires. We have all gone into relationships with our own agenda that was not in God’s will or timing; but when your heart has a genuine desire to please God, you will neglect all of your wants. God’s desire replaces your desire, and he only wants his best for you. It ultimately works out in your favor.

Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. – Psalm 37: 4

3) There will be purpose between the two of you. Although it may not be initially revealed, as things progress, the bigger picture will start to unfold. Your relationship will be used to bless others. In fact, your journey will set an example for others to follow.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8: 28

4) Your relationship will not be a distraction. Naturally, being involved with another person serves as a distraction to a certain degree, however, when your relationship is ordained by God, it will serve as a foundation and support system that propels you to and through your purpose.

So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. So then, you will know them by their fruits. – Matthew 7: 17- 18

5) The relationship will push you closer to God. It is not necessarily your partner’s responsibility to push you closer to God- that is a relationship you build on your own. When you both agree God will be the center of the relationship, you set the foundation that God will lead you both together.

Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven. For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst. – Matthew 18: 19- 20

6) Friendship will be more important than just having a relationship. I honestly believe friendship is the foundation of unconditional love. We don’t go into friendships with hidden agendas. We find common ground with that person and the relationship grows. It is the safe place for each person to grow and learn without judgment.

Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. – 1 John 4: 11-12

7) Things will happen organically. God’s timing is perfect, and that means everything will go according to his plan. Nothing can interfere with that.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. – Ecclesiastes 3: 11

There is much to learn…

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The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭1‬:‭7‬ ESV)

Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭3‬:‭7‬ ESV)

Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth. Do not forsake her, and she will keep you; love her, and she will guard you. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭4‬:‭5-6‬ ESV)

A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭13‬:‭1‬ ESV)

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭6‬ ESV)

Instructions for life

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Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land. In just a little while, the wicked will be no more; though you look carefully at his place, he will not be there. But the meek shall inherit the land and delight themselves in abundant peace. (‭Psalm‬ ‭37‬:‭3-11‬ ESV)

35 Things I Wish I’d Known in High School

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–> Visit reviveourhearts.com/35lessons/ for a printable version of these points.

(Original Article: http://www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com/35-things-i-wish-id-known-in-high-school/)

35 Things I Wish I’d Known in High School

by Erin Davis

I turn 35 today.

I know to some of you that may seem ancient. I can see forty over the horizon after all. When I was a teenager, I didn’t think too highly of the thirties either. Weddings are often done by that stage. Babies have usually been born. Career has been picked. What’s left other than to get wrinkles? But as I crest the hill of my mid-thirties I can assure you I won’t be picking out a retirement home any time soon. I’m just getting warmed up. In fact, my thirties have been some of the best, most fruitful, most fun years of my life. One major lesson I’ve learned is the wisdom that can be gleaned from women older than me. There’s gold in them thar hills if I’m willing to mine it! I don’t have life all figured out, but God has taught me some valuable lessons since high school graduation. Here are thirty-five of them.

  1. God’s promises are true.
  2. He really does have a hope and a future for me (Jer. 29:11).
  3. The college, major, and career I pick don’t define me. I am not my work. I am a child of God.
  4. Marrying a guy who loves Jesus really, really matters.
  5. Parents are pretty cool. Their rules are for my good.
  6. Being the prettiest or most popular girl in school matters for about half a second after graduation. In contrast, being the kindest girl in school gets remembered well past your ten-year reunion.
  7. You will look back at pictures of you and think you were stunning. Trust me.
  8. Insecurity is a massive waste of time and energy. Be confident in God’s love.
  9. “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps” (Prov. 16:9). It’s okay to have a ten-year plan, but there’s a 100% chance God will interrupt it. That’s a good thing.
  10. The bands you listen to in high school will be your very favorite bands forever. Keep the t-shirts. They will be “vintage” and awesome when you’re thirty.
  11. You truly do reap what you sow. I love how Nancy Leigh DeMoss says it, “You are what you’re becoming.” Do you want to know your Bible frontwards and backwards later? Study it like crazy now. Do you want to be more like Christ someday? Be more like Him today.
  12. Broken hearts heal. Mine got broken often in high school. All these years later I’ve still never felt a pain like it. But those deep chasms are now all healed up. If your heart is broken, I promise it will heal and someone else will capture it someday.
  13. Start saving money now. I know that top at Anthropologie is super cute, but it’s also crazy overpriced. Imagine dropping that $75 in a savings account and using it for something lasting like a car, an education, or a child sponsorship. Most people think they will start saving “someday.” I wish I had developed the discipline of saving money as a high school student. While we are on the subject of money . . .
  14. Start tithing. The Bible calls all believers to tithe regardless of income. So, if you have an allowance, a part-time job or babysitting money, you have an income. Everything you make belongs to God, but there are tremendous blessings to be found in giving a portion of it back to Him. Don’t wait until you’re rolling in the dough to start tithing.
  15. The world doesn’t revolve around me. That’s a good thing.
  16. Champion others as often as possible. Instead of wanting everyone to cheer you on, figure out ways to cheer them on.
  17. Normal is a mirage. Embrace your weirdness.
  18. I know that boy gives you butterflies, but that won’t carry you through the ups and downs of life. Find someone who loves Jesus (remember point #4), but also someone who is fun to talk to and knows how to cope when the going gets tough. Then, when you least expect it, the butterflies will start to flutter in your tummy once again. Fourteen years after I married my high school sweetheart, I still get butterflies.
  19. I’ve never met someone my age who is glad she partied in high school. Ever. I’ve met lots and lots of them who regretted it. There is no long-term benefit from that scene.
  20. You don’t need a bunch of friends. You need one or two who’ve really got your back.
  21. Worry less about having the right friends and worry more about being the right friend.
  22. Be picky about your friends. The Bible says it this way, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm” (Prov. 13:20). Pick wise friends. Since Proverbs 9:10 tells us that the fear of the Lord is where wisdom begins, wise friends need to be Jesus-loving friends.
  23. Don’t be afraid to fail. Stand up in front of the class and give that speech. Try out for the lead role in the play. Start a club. You may fall on your face. You may not. But at least you went for it.
  24. You can do big things for the kingdom now. Don’t wait to get involved in ministry.
  25. Your parents don’t need to be your friends right now. They need to be your parents, and that means they make and enforce the rules. The good news is, they will likely be your friends someday. Right now God has given them the job of being in charge. Do everything you can to make that job easier.
  26. Find something you are good at and enjoy it, but don’t make it your whole life. Soccer is supposed to be fun, not stressful. So is singing, sculpting, and playing the saxophone.
  27. It’s okay to miss practice for church. In fact, church trumps activities every single time.
  28. Sometimes it’s cool to love Jesus and not the Church, but Jesus loves the Church. If there is something that could be better at your church, then get involved and make it better instead of complaining or checking out. The Church is the Bride of Christ.
  29. Your youth pastor is not your connection to God.
  30. “The things of earth will come to pass, only what’s done for Christ will last.” That’ll preach.
  31. When you get your license, it’s a license to drive, not a license to do stupid things. I know because within a few weeks of getting my license, I got caught racing on the highway and wrapped my car around a telephone pole. I drove dumb so you don’t have to.
  32. When you do something stupid to impress someone, it’s still doing something stupid, and it likely won’t impress them as much as if you did something smart. Do the smart thing instead.
  33. Your siblings are cooler than you think. When you’re thirty-five, they’ll be the people you want to grab coffee with.
  34. Nothing good happens after curfew. Go home.
  35. “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting” (Prov. 31:30). Since outward beauty cannot last, spend your time growing a beautiful heart.